I've had enough. It is time for me to get this off of my chest. I've been silent about this Chris Brown and Rihanna incident, and frankly that's because I didn't feel like wasting my time with the ignorance--but it must end here. This incident is representative of the nasty case of "blame the victim" that seems to be sweeping over the country.
You may have noticed that at the Grammys, some people turned down their televisions when Chris Brown performed, and others tweeted "he can beat me any day". A friend of mine in particular commented that he was tired of people beating on Chris Brown because in reality "it takes two". Up until those last three words, I understood what he was saying. Now I'm not saying the boy doesn't deserve to have a career. But really, "it takes two" to get beat up? Since when? Therefore, I felt compelled to write the following response, "The hell it does!! Since WHEN!?!? WHY does this country always play this stupid "blame the victim" game. Let's all go ask all the female rape victims why they were raped. I mean...they must have been wearing provocative clothing or something to tempt them right? God forbid we just teach men how to control their damn selves."
Okay, so I could have used nicer language (thankfully he is my friend and knows I mean no harm). The point is that this is an incident that exposed how twisted people think about issues pertaining to domestic violence. The reaction immediately following the incident disturbed me. When people said Chris Brown was wrong, I heard "Well we don't know what happened", but when it came to Rihanna, people wanted to know what SHE did to cause him to lose his cool (and she probably didn't have to do much if you heard about the Good Morning America incident).
What do you think? SOUND OFF! Does this incident hold little significance now? Should we forgive and/or forget? Are we too tolerant with those who perform acts of domestic violence, particularly celebrities? Do you think Chris Brown has changed? WOULD PEOPLE HAVE REACTED DIFFERENTLY IF IT WERE TAYLOR SWIFT INSTEAD OF RIHANNA?
Although it is tough to at points, we should always forgive others. We ourselves are not perfect. (Not saying excuse what he did). A man should never ever put his hands on a women no matter what she did. Also I feel much of the blame the victim in this case comes from girls. I've heard and saw several accounts from girls who said he did nothing wrong only because they're crazy fans and want to be with him. If it were Taylor Swift. Chris Brown would have done some jail time. it's a shame but true
ReplyDeleteI agree. I too have noticed that it is mostly women who give into this "blame the victim" mentality. It's just another example of divide and conquer. It's so sad. The change must start with us.
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